I've been a bit quiet here for the last week because I was totally consumed by a major project for my day job. That project took me to Ft. Lauderdale, which is not a terrible place to have to spend a week in January! Unfortunately, I got to spend very, very little of that time enjoying the warm Florida weather, because my work project was a day-and-night gig, with no time for beach walking, spa visits or relaxation. It was a stressful week, which made it even more important t

I have two pre-teen sons who experienced their own trauma as a result of their family changing shape last year. Our marriage had not been particularly high in conflict, in part because I am a chronic people pleaser and my ex preferred to walk away rather than engage in an argument. As result, we never really fought, and our kids were absolutely shocked when we told them about the divorce. They didn't see it coming. Our divorce also hit in the middle of the COVID-19 pandemi

So what can you do if you're just not feeling particularly joyful? As I mentioned before, I started #MMOJ after a painful period in my life. In December of last year, I discovered that my marriage, which I would have previously described as "good, with problems just like everyone else" was, in fact, not good at all. My (now ex) husband was profoundly unhappy and had taken steps to address his own happiness without me. In short order, I needed to figure out how to separate o